Teachers would stop bullying with surveillance

?????????During the psychological wellbeing workshops that took place in Universidad Catolica Andres Bello (UCAB), teachers, psychologists and specialist in social networks and laws spoke about the phenomenon that affects students and those results in moral, emotional and physical damages that require attention and care from experts.

The clinical psychologist and specialist in orientation and family-school bond, Geraldine Morillo, asked parents, representatives, authorities and the different groups that make up the community to work together. She explained the audience about the need to stop bullying through active vigilance.

The psychologist suggested teachers to carry on watching shifts to keep students under surveillance in all the school areas including, restrooms, courts, cafeterias, school buses, backyards and halls, a suggestion that was supported by the audience. She also stated that teachers must write coexistence manuals, diagnose the types of harassments with its characteristics, involve parents and penalize that kind of behavior in order to keep away from being allowing or blind towards it.

She reminded the audience that in every harassment case there is a victim, a victimizer and spectators, and she pointed out that, in the majority of the cases, both the victim and the victimizer learned the behavior in their homes. To take students complaints seriously and to talk separately with all the parties involved in a case, calling the parents to be aware of the situation and to assist in its corresponding solution.

Source: UN


What you should to keep your kids from being stalked online

ciberacosoFor a few years now, kids appear to be born with a sixth sense that allows them to master new technologies with natural skills even as small children. Computers, tablets and smartphones are part of their lives since they take their first steps, so they’re more easily exposed to the risks involved in the internet.

The reigning anonymity of the internet makes social networks, forums and chat rooms some of the greatest risks for children, as their unsupervised use of the web makes them an ideal target for any sort of attack. This doesn’t mean these tools are damaging. On the contrary, a responsible use of technological tools results in numerous benefits derived from the exchange of ideas with other people. That’s why parents’ job is to educate their children so they don’t become victims or cyber-bullies.

To try and make small children relate with technology and internet safely, the blog “Laboratorio Ontinet.com” offers a series of tips for parents to prevent their children from being the object of some kind of harassment while surfing the web.

  1. Remind your children that cyber-bullying is a punishable crime, so they should report if they’re being victims of persecution. People’s actions on social networks leave a trace. Locating cyber-bullies is usually simple.
  2. Teach them tolerance: Teaching children to respect diversity and encouraging social coexistence should be a mandatory principle in every home. Only then we will instill respect for others in our children.
  3. Detect signs on time: Noticing your child might be a victim of bullying on time helps dealing with possible long-term problems early. Being aware of their reactions when browsing the internet and monitoring their internet activity are two efficient tools.
  4. Report: If you’re a witness of behavior that could be categorized as cyber-bullying, you should report it. If you find out your kid has been bullying others, you should prevent the problem from escalating by adopting the necessary measures to keep your child from maintaining such an attitude. If parents overlook this problem, it will likely grow until causing disastrous consequences.

Source: ABC

School Bullying

BullyIt may not seem so, but school bullying is more frequent than many people think. Many of today’s parents were bullied during their school years and didn’t know what to say or how to act.

¿What is Bullying?

Bullying is the continuous harassment against a child or adolescent perpetrated by another more powerful kid or group of kids, whether in terms of physical strength or social status, and those who perpetrate it usually brag about their power and have a desire to intimidate and dominate their surroundings. Bullying usually occurs among youngsters of similar ages in elementary schools or high-schools and usually involves one or more people, leaving the bullied kid completely defenseless. The term bullying comes from the Dutch and means harassment.

The first person to implement the term “bullying” to school harassment was the researcher Dan Olweus, who carried out a long-term study in the 70s in Sweden that would result in a complete anti-bullying program for schools in Norway.

In the past, school harassment was not a very spread-out topic, but given the increase in cases of bullying and aggressions in school centers in which many kids have experienced truly terrifying situations, it has become an issue that deserves special attention.

Bullying is present in almost any environment, it is not exclusive to a certain sector of society or gender, although the aggressor’s profile does indicate a tendency for the male gender. There are no differences regarding the victim either.

Aggressors harass their victims when they’re alone, in the bathroom, on the hallway, at the lunch room, the yard. For this reason, teachers are usually unaware of these situations.

It’s not just a shove or a spoken insult. It’s a situation that, unless it is stopped in time, may result in serious emotional damage for the victim.

This practice is quite frequent in elementary and junior high school. In other parts of the world, kids are adapting to new technologies, resulting in what has been called cyber-bullying, or online harassment, specifically in websites, blogs or by email.

Consequences of bullying on the aggressor (s)

Bullies could develop into criminals. These persons are frustrated because it is difficult for them to coexist with others and think no effort will be enough to generate positive relationships with their classmates.

Consequences for the victims

Evident low self-esteem, passive attitude, loss of interest in school which may lead to failure in class, emotional disorders, psychosomatic problems, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately some kids take their lives to escape these situations.

How does an aggressor behave?

Bullies usually act to impose their power over their victims, subduing them for months or even years.

The kid, or group of kids, usually has an aggressive and threatening attitude for no apparent reason against other kids.

To them, anything can be a reason to make fun of the victim.

Their way to solve conflicts is through aggression.

They are not empathic, so they’re unable to put themselves in the victim’s shoes.

Bullying victim behavior

They are commonly shy and slightly unsociable kids. Facing constant harassment, they are obviously anguished, tense and very scared.

They show aggression towards their parents or teachers.

They use excuses or different arguments not to go to school or participate in school activities.

Low grades.

Victims begin to lose material goods with no justification or ask their parents for more money than usual to cover their bully’s blackmail.

In more severe cases, they show bruises or evident signs of aggression on their face and body.

How to prevent bullying in the family

Family is the children’s main source of love and education. Based on family values, norms and taught behaviors, kids learn to socialize. We must avoid letting our home become a hostile environment, while also avoiding excessive permissiveness, since these extreme environments are likely to bring about aggressive behaviors in kids.

Another role of the family is being well informed. There are workshops to orient parents in how to keep their kids away from bullying, usually based on love and parent-child communication, observation to detect unusual conducts right away, being on top of the kid’s activities, establishing boundaries and ground rules, and enforcing them.

These workshops pay special attention on emotional intelligence, teaching parents how to help their kids control their emotions and behavior towards others so that they can coexist in peace.